輔導的第一步—認可 Validation

https://positivepsychology.com/validation-in-therapy/

認可(validation)是 心理諮商很重要的元素。當父母親表現出更多認可(青少年的理解、讓青少年感覺他們的想法是可以被理解的、協助青少年辨識情緒並接納情緒與情緒經驗),會大大減低青少年的情緒失調(emotion dysregulation與外化(externalizing)問題。

夫妻婚姻問題也是一樣,不要急著認定對方有錯,而是去敘述及提出問題,了解事實與真相。而就算是問題行為,當中若有好的及正常化的部分,仍然給予認可及尊重。這樣會大大降低負面的反應,他出溝通的第一步。

Validation means that you understand where the other person is coming from, even if you disagree with what they say or do (Rather & Miller, 2015).

Recognizing that someone’s feelings and thoughts make sense can show that we are listening nonjudgmentally and can help build stronger relationships, especially in therapy.

It can be tricky. Crucially, we need to validate what the person feels, but not always their behavior (Rather & Miller, 2015).